Stop Putting Your Kids First

Mighty Oak Athletic Podcast S2:E26 - Stop Putting Your Kids First

Spring break often brings visions of end-of-season ski trips, family road trips, and sun-soaked beach days. It’s a time to recharge, enjoy, and—hopefully—catch some vitamin D. But as we gather our bags and board planes to various destinations, we’re reminded of an important in-flight safety directive that applies just as much to health and wellness: “Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others.”

The message is simple, yet profound. On airplanes, and in life, we cannot be of service to others if we haven’t taken care of ourselves. While it may seem counterintuitive to prioritize self-care over helping others—especially for parents who are often expected to put their family first—the truth is that self-care is not selfish. In fact, it’s the best way to ensure we’re able to show up fully, for longer periods, and more effectively for those who depend on us.

The Importance of Self-Care for Parents and Student Athletes

For student athletes, parents, and coaches, the demands of daily life can be intense. Between practice schedules, school commitments, family obligations, and social activities, it’s easy to feel stretched thin. And when the pressure mounts, one of the first things to slip is often self-care. Yet, self-care is crucial for sustaining health, preventing burnout, and building resilience.

Parents, this message is especially for you. Your role as a pillar of support for your athlete is invaluable. But to maintain the energy, patience, and strength that parenting and coaching require, you need to fuel yourself first. By carving out time for exercise, proper nutrition, rest, and activities that rejuvenate you, you’re setting a positive example for your athlete and showing them that prioritizing health is a lifetime commitment.

Setting Boundaries: The Key to Consistent Self-Care

Making self-care a priority often requires setting boundaries—saying “no” when it’s necessary to protect that time. This isn’t about shutting people out; it’s about ensuring that you have the mental and physical resources to give when it truly matters. Whether it’s blocking off time for a workout, a few minutes of quiet reflection, or preparing healthy meals, these moments are essential to keep yourself functioning at your best.

It’s the same principle as the oxygen mask on an airplane. By keeping your own “mask” secured, you’re in a better position to help others. If we consistently neglect our own well-being to help those around us, we risk burning out and becoming less effective in the long run.

Why This Matters for Student Athletes

For student athletes, balancing sports with academics and a social life can be overwhelming. The instinct may be to push hard without pause, thinking that sacrificing sleep or rest will lead to success. But just as the body needs fuel, muscles need recovery to perform at their peak. Teaching young athletes to prioritize recovery, nutrition, and mental health equips them with tools for sustainable performance and longevity.

Parents can play a vital role here by modeling self-care habits. When student athletes see their parents and coaches respecting their own health, it normalizes the idea that rest, recovery, and self-care are part of a healthy lifestyle.

Practicing Self-Care Benefits Everyone

Making time for self-care is a win-win. When you’re at your best, you’re able to give more to your family, friends, and community. This includes being present for the ups and downs of athletic pursuits, providing unwavering support, and encouraging resilience. In the long run, prioritizing personal wellness empowers you to engage in life more fully, handle stress with greater ease, and model a balanced approach to health for the student athletes in your life.

So, as you enjoy the sunshine or head out for those last ski runs this spring break, remember to embrace self-care. Make it a priority, set boundaries to protect it, and see it as a foundational piece of your well-being. When you’re operating from a place of health and energy, your capacity to support others will naturally expand.

In both the plane cabin and in life, secure your mask first. Prioritize yourself to better serve those around you, and remember: You’re worth it!